Qualities in Adoptive Parents that guarantee success. Having partner’s support. Be united.
View the world through the eyes of the child. Your and child’s values may vary.
When adopting insist that your adoptive child is younger than the rest of children. Parents are protective of the youngest. African children have different concept of play. More advanced physically. Parents with patience but playful are the best.
Parents have to be observant. Do not react too quickly. Be understanding.
Counselling needed by whole family, not just child. Don’t react the same way all the time.
Parents have to be flexible. So much more stimuli in N.A. African children can’t get used to the new ways of society right away. Quietly correct it. In a learning way. Come to professional when struggling. No judging. Insight to recognize help needed.
This of birth parent. Think what openness are you open to. Variety of openness. Compassion is necessary. Child’s best interest to know her history.
You don’t know a lot abut the children you adopt. Fetal alcohol affect. Stealing. Meeting the birth mother helps. No perfect adoptions. Deciding not to adopt special needs. Think how adoptive children fit with other children in the family.
Openness is import. Get support if needed. Romantic notion is not right. Can’t be rigid. It doesn’t matter because God will provide does not always work. Parents needs vs child’s needs. Problems with loving the child. Can be turned around.